I find it strange how sometimes people want to cover up good memories. let me tell you a story about the Carberry Chapel Cover up. Bear with me as this story unfolds. Its so important to make memories. yet while we're living our lives we seldom think of the legacy of memory, until we've lost something or someone dear to us. Often we as humans erect memorial stomes write songs or even if we are wealthy enough erect a building in memory of a loved one. I think one of the most thoughful songs the Beatles ever wrote was entitled " In my life" The words reflect the way many of us feel as we look back across the years. Its a beautiful little love song and to think it was written by someone in their early twenties.Carberry
There are places I remember
All my life, though some have changed
Some forever not for better
Some have gone and some remain
All these places have their moments
With lovers and friends I still can recall
Some are dead and some are living
In my life I've loved them all
But of all these friends and lovers
There is no one compares with you
And these memories lose their meaning
When I think of love as something new
Though I know I'll never lose affection
For people and things that went before
I know I'll often stop and think about them
In my life I love you more
There's a place that has been in my memory this week. Its called Carberry Tower. It was once the home of the Elphinstone's, the late Queen Mother's family. In 1964 it was gifted to the Church of Scotland by the family for Christian Education and as a Retreat Centre. It served the church well for over 40 years.
During the late 80s and into the mid ninties our family used to attend the Carberry Festival. This was the brainchild of Jock and Margaret Stein who were the resident wardens in charge at that time. During the years of the festival some amazing friendships were nurtured as artists and poets, musicians and philosophers, thinkers and teachers, preachers and prophets, entrueprenuers and academics visited the festival and made their contributions. It was truly an amazing place. What made the festival unique was the interaction that occured between the festival goers and the performers. One year a person might be a perormer the next year they returned as a festival attendee. Sadly the festival came to an end a few years ago. Yet, like a stone being thrown in a pool so the ripples of the festival continue to this day. Creating lasting memories that in turn bring into life new opportunities that one day will be memories in their own right.
Last Saturday my son chose to be married in this amazing place, not becaiuse of its present graduer but because of its past influence on his life. It was here as a young child he found freedom to play football climb trees, make new friends. Here as a teenager he engaged with the arts and discovered more about his faith. So it was here that he returned to make a lasting memory not only for our family but for his bride and their many friends.
The wedding took place in the little chapel on the estate built in 1964 by a loving husband in memeory of his dear wife. Today the present owners have decided that the chapel will no longer be used as a dedicated sacred space. It has been renamed the Ceilidh Hall. What I found quite distressing about the renaming of the chapel was that they have placed a permenant cemented plaque over the dedication stone, which had been chiselled out in letters in memory of Mr Ross's wife.
It all had a touch of irony attached to it. Here was a corporate company, wanting their venue to be full of lasting memories - looking for wedding business, covering up the one aspect of their asset that would speak volumes to couples being married in a chapel dedicated to a loving wife.
The question I have to ask is why would a company want to cover up the dedication stone ? Its almost in the same league as trying to wipe a name off a grave stone. On Saturday a temporary sign was erected covering the Ceilidh Hal sign, reinstating the building as the Carberry Chapel. At least for an hour last week memories were reclaimed.